One of the best rules for Christian couples who are committed to an open heart is that intimacy must be used to grow closer together. Learn how to improve your sex life. Here are some important rules for Christian couples to follow:

1. Communicate Likes and Dislikes.

This is a very important aspect of Christian intimacy. Often one person, or both, will have a lack of intimate practice. The reason for this is that one person, or both, lacks passionate intimacy. Without passionate intimacy, we automatically impair our commitment to sexual practice.

So, verbally discuss with your partner how they like to be affectionate and express their likes and dislikes while in intimacy. If there is one person or both, that doesn’t get it, then do some research and conclude that they have a strong passion for sex, and then communicate this to your partner.

2. Setting Rules and Enjoyment.

Often couples separate sex from the growth and change that happens in a relationship. One person, or both, may get ahead of themselves, and sex slowly becomes less and less of a priority. Or, one person, or both, start to focus more on rules as opposed to enjoying the experience.

But what is the purpose of focusing on rules?

Many times, couples separate sex from the growth and change that happens in their relationship. Or, we hold back from experiencing the fullness of pleasure in regards to sex, believing that we are performing or not performing according to some rigid and overly complicated set of rules.

You can experience the fullness of pleasure sexually, you just need to learn the two basic rules that marriage requires, to be able to experience pleasure and full expression once the entry door has been opened.

These two rules are:

And then there are the “what can I do if you are not pleasing me at all” rules.

These rules address pressing concerns: What can I do when you do not please me at all? What can I do when your head is rolling over and you can’t seem to stop from having a mind-shattering orgasm? How can I get you to shave so I can see if your bathroom is clean or not? Can I get you to cut down the number of candles in the room? Is the house temperature just right?

And many other questions that would make the head spin.

Once you put these two rules together, you have just encyclopedia-clipped the “What can I do if you are not pleasing me at all” portion of the marriage relationship.

And then, perhaps a lot of tension has developed from these two rules.

But, just working on the two rules, while trying to develop a more intimate relationship, can work wonders.

So the heart of this article is to say that you can grow closer together, without necessarily having to compromise your core beliefs.

You can learn to be intimate without being sexual. You can learn to be sexual without having to lose your intimacy.

The variety of ways to be intimate is beyond the number of positions in the Kama Sutra. It is something that can be scripted and performed to perfection.

If you have been married for five years, is the right time to get your married sex life back on track?